Our view of the world is jaded or colored by our understanding; in other words our view is not clear and unobstructed. One particular subcatagory I have problems in is seeing people for who they are, not who I would like them to be. This brings on blindness and bias that could be harmful to future progression or keep old wounds from healing.
A boss who cannot see the bad work ethic of the friend he or she was promoted over because the friendship blinds and creates denial.
A mother cannot see her child is rude and disrespectful because this is her "sweet, innocent baby". She is in denial.
An older sister sees her younger sister as a slacker and "needs to get her act together". Because the older sister is blinded by responsibility and raising a family, she fails to see the beautiful, free spirited, talented potential the younger sister possesses. The older sister just needs to back off long enough to let the younger sister spread her wings.
And the list could continue, but this is sufficient. What this boils down to is failing to see something for what it is. "If it looks like a duck and quacks like a duck then it is a duck." We need to recognize our built in bias and circumnavigate it. The boss with the bias of friendship may need to separate priorities. The mother may need to separate reality from fantasy. The older sister may need to cease manipulation of the situation.
I will take this newly found nugget of wisdom and apply this to all my relationships both present and future. Who knows this could also help to heal past wounds or recognize and rectify character judgment mistakes that are dragging me down.
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